Marriage boycott
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Why We Refuse to Get Married
by Woozle
- Until marriage is available to everyone, it discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model.
- I'm gender dysphoric, so if all were right with my little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway (at least, not to marry anyone I might conceivably actually want to marry, assuming I wanted to marry in the first place).
- It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for the kind of family I would want to build.
- The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning for any more offspring, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
- Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me once), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
- Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
- we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
- the applicable rules change from state to state
- the applicable rules can be changed over time, without our consent
We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see issuepedia:marriage boycott.