Marriage boycott

or,

Why We Refuse to Get Married

by Woozle

• Until marriage is available to everyone, it discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model.
  • I'm gender dysphoric, so if all were right with my little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway.
  • It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for the kind of family I would want to build.
• The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
  • Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me once), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
• Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
  • we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
  • those rules change from state to state
  • the rules can be changed over time, without our consent

We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see issuepedia:marriage boycott.