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| 1861 || Montague Stephens born  
| width=25% | 1861 || Montague Stephens born  
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| 1871 || Edith Bailey born  
| 1871 || Edith Bailey born  
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| 1892 || MS @Jersey&Gorey
| 1892 || MS @Jersey&Gorey
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| 1894/5 || MS @Rio/Montevideo/Belem
| 1894/5 || MS @Rio/Montevideo/Belem
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| 1896|| Montague Stephens marries Edith in Falkland Is.
| 1896|| Montague Stephens marries Edith in Falkland Is.
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| 1896-99 || M&E@Canobie Canada<br>Maurice born     
| 1896-99 || M&E@Canobie Canada<br>Maurice born     
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| 1899 Feb 2 || Biddie born in Esquimault BC  
| 1899 Feb 2 || Biddie born in Esquimault BC  
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| 1902 Sept 30 || Eric Rayner born Thaton Burma<br>Clive born (?)  
| 1902 Sept 30 || Eric Rayner born Thaton Burma<br>Clive born (?)  
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| 1903 Oct 27 || Phyllis born at Saltash Cornwall
| 1903 Oct 27 || Phyllis born at Saltash Cornwall
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| 1905 || Stephens’@Bermuda
| 1905 || Stephens'@Bermuda
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| 1909 July 23 || Daphne born Whitchurch Tavistock Devon
| 1909 July 23 || Daphne born Whitchurch Tavistock Devon
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| 1918 October || E.’s father dies (Stella Lodge 49th.St.Rangoon)
| 1918 October || E.'s father dies (Stella Lodge 49th.St.Rangoon)
“When I saw him I had a shock. I hadn’t seen him since the previous Christmas holidays when I had made a bullock-cart trip with him to Shwegyin, to which he had just been posted - our last cart-trip together...now he was gaunt with a wasted smile and a weak voice..”
"When I saw him I had a shock. I hadn't seen him since the previous Christmas holidays when I had made a bullock-cart trip with him to Shwegyin, to which he had just been posted - our last cart-trip together...now he was gaunt with a wasted smile and a weak voice.."
“He was buried the next morning...in the Cantonment Cemetary. I carried one corner of the coffin. I remember that the sun shone and that I thought how odd it was that I should be helping to bury my father, to whom only the day before I had been reading the war news out of the morning paper. He was thirty-nine at the time of his death.” [quotes from E’s ‘Journal’ written between 1939 and 1942]
 
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"He was buried the next morning...in the Cantonment Cemetary. I carried one corner of the coffin. I remember that the sun shone and that I thought how odd it was that I should be helping to bury my father, to whom only the day before I had been reading the war news out of the morning paper. He was thirty-nine at the time of his death." [quotes from E's "Journal" written between 1939 and 1942]
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| 1921 Jan || E.starts teaching at Church School in Mandalay then to family in Rangoon
| 1921 Jan || E.starts teaching at Church School in Mandalay then to family in Rangoon
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| 1922 July 1 || Biddie marries Maxwell Staniforth at Hayling Is
| 1922 July 1 || Biddie marries Maxwell Staniforth at Hayling Is
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| 1923 || Edith & Monty seperate
| 1923 || Edith & Monty seperate
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| 1925 April || E.to Calcutta to join “The Statesman”
| 1925 April || E.to Calcutta to join "The Statesman"
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| 1928 April 4 || Rosamund Staniforth born  
| 1928 April 4 || Rosamund Staniforth born  
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| 1929 October || E.marries Elma Glassup (Bonnie) in Calcutta
| 1929 October || E.marries Elma Glassup (Bonnie) in Calcutta
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| | 1933 ||
| | 1933 ||
* May : E.to England(with Bonnie)
* May : E.to England(with Bonnie)
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* Sept.16:
* Sept.16:
** D. to Colombo(with Elizabeth Kenning to visit her mother)   
** D. to Colombo(with Elizabeth Kenning to visit her mother)   
** E. to Calcutta - both on board  B&I Domala: “The people on board were the usual crowd on any India-bound ship - sahibs and memsahibs, with a sprinkling of sahibs and memsahibs to-be, people going out for the first time, to jobs or to be married. It was deadening, till I met Daphne. We usesd to sit near each other on the deck, without speaking...then one day when we were in the Red Sea I spoke to her and after that we were always together...we knew each other for ten days on that ship and at the end of that time we had decided that we had to make a new life together.”
** E. to Calcutta - both on board  B&I Domala: "The people on board were the usual crowd on any India-bound ship - sahibs and memsahibs, with a sprinkling of sahibs and memsahibs to-be, people going out for the first time, to jobs or to be married. It was deadening, till I met Daphne. We usesd to sit near each other on the deck, without speaking...then one day when we were in the Red Sea I spoke to her and after that we were always together...we knew each other for ten days on that ship and at the end of that time we had decided that we had to make a new life together."


“She came to me as an equal. I was 31 unsatisfactorily married with a consciousness of intellectual gifts that were wasting in a society I hated and despised...I sneered..inevitably.. I posed. But Daphne cut through all these barbed-wire entanglements that surrounded me..[we] wanted to be with each other always.”
"She came to me as an equal. I was 31 unsatisfactorily married with a consciousness of intellectual gifts that were wasting in a society I hated and despised...I sneered..inevitably.. I posed. But Daphne cut through all these barbed-wire entanglements that surrounded me..[we] wanted to be with each other always."


“The obstacles seemed so great and we were seperated, that was the worst to bear, the seperation.”
"The obstacles seemed so great and we were seperated, that was the worst to bear, the seperation."


“We had made a decision, she and I, and it was a decision that had to be carried out in the face of all obstacles...It never occured to either of us to think of wavering.”
"We had made a decision, she and I, and it was a decision that had to be carried out in the face of all obstacles...It never occured to either of us to think of wavering."


“When I think of that time now[Sept 17th.’39]my feelings are a mixture of wonder and fear and gladness...”
"When I think of that time now[Sept 17th.'39]my feelings are a mixture of wonder and fear and gladness..."
: [D in a letter to Marjorie]
: [D in a letter to Marjorie]


Commisioner’s House Trincomali Oct 1933
Commisioner's House Trincomali Oct 1933


On the top verandah..it is fairly cool & undisturbed, though the people going by along the road are rather distracting. I can see the sea, a placid whitish blue & a hot strip of sand. The house is hemmed in by trees & mother has a regular jungle of shrubs in pots. I have had a bathe this morning before breakfast & Elizabeth has been sketching. She is very brave: the other day we went to the market with Augustine the cook & she started sketching. The whole market rose as one man & clustered round at her elbow! Augustine came along & let out a few oaths & the crowd thinned a bit.......We dined on board the Colombo their last night. Elizabeth & I feel like film stars trailing up & down companion-ways & in & out of launches with masses of handsome(?) white clad officers saluting all over the place!
On the top verandah..it is fairly cool & undisturbed, though the people going by along the road are rather distracting. I can see the sea, a placid whitish blue & a hot strip of sand. The house is hemmed in by trees & mother has a regular jungle of shrubs in pots. I have had a bathe this morning before breakfast & Elizabeth has been sketching. She is very brave: the other day we went to the market with Augustine the cook & she started sketching. The whole market rose as one man & clustered round at her elbow! Augustine came along & let out a few oaths & the crowd thinned a bit.......We dined on board the Colombo their last night. Elizabeth & I feel like film stars trailing up & down companion-ways & in & out of launches with masses of handsome(?) white clad officers saluting all over the place!
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| 1934 ||
| 1934 ||
* Jan.: D.returns UK [March 6 Craven Hill Gdns?]
* Jan.: D.returns UK [March 6 Craven Hill Gdns?]
* July 22: E.returns UK on the Comorin from Bombay arr.Portsmouth via Marseilles (in his journal he recalls: July 22. Then “The Orchard” Hotel nr. Marble Arch for 6 days, “How wonderful London was that July!” Then at the end of the month to DH’s cottage at Vron).
* July 22: E.returns UK on the Comorin from Bombay arr.Portsmouth via Marseilles (in his journal he recalls: July 22. Then "The Orchard" Hotel nr. Marble Arch for 6 days, "How wonderful London was that July!" Then at the end of the month to D's cottage at Vron).
* April: Edith&Solomon take house in Bromley                         
* April: Edith&Solomon take house in Bromley                         
* May 26: Claire Appleby born
* May 26: Claire Appleby born
* June 25: Applebys to Woodcote Close Epsom
* June 25: Applebys to Woodcote Close Epsom
* Sept 28: D&E retn London Sydney St?
* Sept 28: D&E retn London Sydney St?
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| 1935 ||
| 1935 ||
* Easter-June: D&E @ ‘Cornerways’ Thorns Beach (Easter Ros&Bids visit)
* Easter-June: D&E @ "Cornerways" Thorns Beach (Easter Ros&Bids visit)
* by August: D&E @ ‘Ivyroost’ East Boldre
* by August: D&E @ "Ivyroost" East Boldre
* Sept: Bids&Max&Ros at ‘Foundry Cottage’ Haslemere
* Sept: Bids&Max&Ros at "Foundry Cottage" Haslemere
* December 4: Benedick born in East Boldre
* December 4: Benedick born in East Boldre
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| 1936 ||
| 1936 ||
* Aug 19: Daphne & Eric Rayner married @Wandsworth Registery office “But the day we took as our wedding day is the 22 July 1934 when our new life began..”
* Aug 19: Daphne & Eric Rayner married @Wandsworth Registery office "But the day we took as our wedding day is the 22 July 1934 when our new life began.."
* August 29: James Appleby born
* August 29: James Appleby born
* [Oct Dulcee&Irene Rayner arr.UK from Rangoon]
* [Oct Dulcee&Irene Rayner arr.UK from Rangoon]
* Oct: D&E&B @ KingswoodRuffs,Greyshot nr.Hindhead     
* Oct: D&E&B @ KingswoodRuffs,Greyshot nr.Hindhead     
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| 1937 ||
| 1937 ||
* [Jan 1 D&I take Lavender Cottage]
* [Jan 1 D&I take Lavender Cottage]
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* Sept 23: Phyl,Ambrose&James to Colombo
* Sept 23: Phyl,Ambrose&James to Colombo
* Oct 9: Clare Appleby dies
* Oct 9: Clare Appleby dies
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| 1939 || D&E&B @ Upper Park Rd     
| 1939 || D&E&B @ Upper Park Rd     
* March 2: Applebys retn UK
* March 2: Applebys retn UK
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* Sept 3: WW2 declared
* Sept 3: WW2 declared


“I had visualised swarms of bombers, showering death and destruction on London and thought gladly of Benedick safe in SDomerset. We had waited in the hall downstairs, the apprehension in our hearts. A lorry driver had stopped his lorry in the street outside and came in to shelter in the hall. He had said, ‘I didn’t think Hitler would start as soon as this’. Later we had walked across Hampstead Heath to Jack Straw’s Castle to catch the bus, feeling very self-conscious with our new gas-masks in their cardboard boxes slung across our shoulders. Hampstead Heath had looked much as it had always looked on a Sunday. The anti-aircraft guns, the allotments, the rubble of London’s bombed buildings filling the sandpits by the Spaniard’s Road were yet to come.”   
"I had visualised swarms of bombers, showering death and destruction on London and thought gladly of Benedick safe in SDomerset. We had waited in the hall downstairs, the apprehension in our hearts. A lorry driver had stopped his lorry in the street outside and came in to shelter in the hall. He had said, "I didn't think Hitler would start as soon as this". Later we had walked across Hampstead Heath to Jack Straw's Castle to catch the bus, feeling very self-conscious with our new gas-masks in their cardboard boxes slung across our shoulders. Hampstead Heath had looked much as it had always looked on a Sunday. The anti-aircraft guns, the allotments, the rubble of London's bombed buildings filling the sandpits by the Spaniard's Road were yet to come."


* November: Ben back to London then to December - Aspley Guise
* November: Ben back to London then to December - Aspley Guise
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| 1940 ||
| 1940 ||
* June: D&E&B @Liverpool,Croxteth Grove,Sefton Park. then D&B @Vron
* June: D&E&B @Liverpool,Croxteth Grove,Sefton Park. then D&B @Vron
“that was a wonderful summer, it was difficult to imagine the horror of the war. But the army had taken over part of the New Brighton beach, there were hundreds of French sailors in Liverpool’s streets looking a bit forlorn; there were tank barriers and barbed wire on the roads to Chester and into Wales and later in the streets of Liverpool itself, round the docks and the Mersey Tunnel entrance. We went to a fire station to hear a short lecture on fire bombs and to learn how to use a stirrup pump. (Benedick liked working the hose!) One night the sirens went and we sat in the cellar of the house - Benedick enjoyed that too! - feeling a little tense and helpless and not knowing quite what to expect. A plane droned somewhere and we waited...and then the sirens sounded the all-clear and we went to bed. Yes, the sun shone that summer on the yet unmarked face of England. The force that had smashed the face of Europe was gathering for the crowning blow.. but we did not know... the vicious strength of that blow nor the inadequacy of our own strength. How could we? The sun had shone on England so long and we were warm with it, drugged. Our awakening was to come.” (April 25 1942)
"that was a wonderful summer, it was difficult to imagine the horror of the war. But the army had taken over part of the New Brighton beach, there were hundreds of French sailors in Liverpool's streets looking a bit forlorn; there were tank barriers and barbed wire on the roads to Chester and into Wales and later in the streets of Liverpool itself, round the docks and the Mersey Tunnel entrance. We went to a fire station to hear a short lecture on fire bombs and to learn how to use a stirrup pump. (Benedick liked working the hose!) One night the sirens went and we sat in the cellar of the house - Benedick enjoyed that too! - feeling a little tense and helpless and not knowing quite what to expect. A plane droned somewhere and we waited...and then the sirens sounded the all-clear and we went to bed. Yes, the sun shone that summer on the yet unmarked face of England. The force that had smashed the face of Europe was gathering for the crowning blow.. but we did not know... the vicious strength of that blow nor the inadequacy of our own strength. How could we? The sun had shone on England so long and we were warm with it, drugged. Our awakening was to come." (April 25 1942)
* August: D&E&B @Canfield Gardens, Finchley Road
* August: D&E&B @Canfield Gardens, Finchley Road
* Sept 6th.: move to 15 Cannon Place, Hampstead.
* Sept 6th.: move to 15 Cannon Place, Hampstead.
“The next day the Germans flew up the Thames and set the London docks ablaze...There were sometimes vapour trails patterning the London sky, and once or twice we stood in the streets and watched British fighters flying regimented and purposeful in the autumn sunlight.”
"The next day the Germans flew up the Thames and set the London docks ablaze...There were sometimes vapour trails patterning the London sky, and once or twice we stood in the streets and watched British fighters flying regimented and purposeful in the autumn sunlight."


Staniforths @Bognor Regis
Staniforths @Bognor Regis
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| 1942 ||
| 1942 ||
* Oct 22: Annabel Rayner born, Staniforths @Flimwell
* Oct 22: Annabel Rayner born, Staniforths @Flimwell
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| 1943 ||
| 1943 ||
* Maurice‘Molly’Stephens dies
* Maurice "Molly" Stephens dies
* James to Cleeve Crt prep-school Malvern Wells
* James to Cleeve Crt prep-school Malvern Wells
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| 1945 || Rosamund @Well Walk
| 1945 || Rosamund @Well Walk
* Sept: Ben to PR at Gorehambury St Albans
* Sept: Ben to PR at Gorehambury St Albans
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| 1946 Sept 22 || Rosalind Rayner born; Staniforths @Bexhill
| 1946 Sept 22 || Rosalind Rayner born; Staniforths @Bexhill
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| 1947 Feb10 || Applebys move to ‘Windyridge’ Reigate
| 1947 Feb10 || Applebys move to "Windyridge" Reigate
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| 1948 Feb 28 || Linda Appleby born
| 1948 Feb 28 || Linda Appleby born
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| 1949 Sept || Ben to Bryanston; James to Eastbourne College
| 1949 Sept || Ben to Bryanston; James to Eastbourne College
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* Dec 10: Edith Grundy dies at Redhill  
* Dec 10: Edith Grundy dies at Redhill  
* Dec 19: Montague Stephens dies at Bexhill
* Dec 19: Montague Stephens dies at Bexhill
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| 1951 || Staniforths @Sixpenny Handley
| 1951 || Staniforths @Sixpenny Handley
* July 28: Rosamund marries Tony Du Cane
* July 28: Rosamund marries Tony Du Cane
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* March 12: Leslie DuCane born at Forest Cottage Pilley Bailey
* March 12: Leslie DuCane born at Forest Cottage Pilley Bailey
* May 6: Ben starts National Service
* May 6: Ben starts National Service
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| 1955 ||
| 1955 ||
* May: E to BBC
* May: E to BBC
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* May: Ben de-mobbed
* May: Ben de-mobbed
* Aug 7: Jane DuCane born at Pilley Bailey
* Aug 7: Jane DuCane born at Pilley Bailey
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| 1957 ||
| 1957 ||
* Sept: James de-mobbed
* Sept: James de-mobbed
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* Daphne to Italy with Elizabeth Kenning
* Daphne to Italy with Elizabeth Kenning
* B. to Worldwide(Clapham)  
* B. to Worldwide(Clapham)  
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| 1959 || & Summer of the 17th.Doll
| 1959 || & Summer of the 17th.Doll
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| 1960 || James to Philippines
| 1960 || James to Philippines
* March 26 Louise DuCane born at Pilley Bailey
* March 26 Louise DuCane born at Pilley Bailey
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| 1961 ||
| 1961 ||
* [Jan 14: Carol Corbett to Well Walk]
* [Jan 14: Carol Corbett to Well Walk]
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*: Linda Appleby dies
*: Linda Appleby dies
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| 1962 June 29 || E&P move to ‘West Point’ Reigate Hill
| 1962 June 29 || E&P move to "West Point" Reigate Hill
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| 1963 July || B to Lonsdale Sq. Islington
| 1963 July || B to Lonsdale Sq. Islington
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| 1964 ||
| 1964 ||
* Sept.21: Ben Rayner marries Kate Leahy at St.Mary’s, Lewisham
* Sept.21: Ben Rayner marries Kate Leahy at St.Mary's, Lewisham
* Feb: Aaron born to AR
* Feb: Aaron born to AR
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| 1965 April 30 || Emma born to RR
| 1965 April 30 || Emma born to RR
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* Rosalind & Chris to Compagne Gdns
* Rosalind & Chris to Compagne Gdns
* James&Esther rtn UK - Horley Surrey
* James&Esther rtn UK - Horley Surrey
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| 1967 || D&E move to Maze Hill Greenwich
| 1967 || D&E move to Maze Hill Greenwich
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| 1968 || B&K ‘on location’ in Paris; R&C to Knockholt
| 1968 || B&K "on location" in Paris; R&C to Knockholt
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| 1969 ||
| 1969 ||
* June 29: Vanessa McCure born
* June 29: Vanessa McCure born
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| 1970 ||
| 1970 ||
* Jan: R,C&V move to Plumstead
* Jan: R,C&V move to Plumstead
* March 25: Biddie dies at ‘Greenacre’ Pilley Bailey
* March 25: Biddie dies at "Greenacre" Pilley Bailey
* May 8: D&E to Corby Glen
* May 8: D&E to Corby Glen
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| 1971 ||
| 1971 ||
* Feb 17: Rachel McClure born
* Feb 17: Rachel McClure born
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| 1972 Jan 6 || Vanessa Appleby born
| 1972 Jan 6 || Vanessa Appleby born
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|- bgcolor=#eeeeee
| 1973 || B&K&C to South Street Greenwich
| 1973 || B&K&C to South Street Greenwich
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| 1974 || J,E & V move to Pound Hill Crawley     
| 1974 || J,E & V move to Pound Hill Crawley     
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| 1975 ||
| 1975 ||
* June 16: Charlotte Rayner born
* June 16: Charlotte Rayner born
* October 10: E’s mother Irene dies in Cricklewood
* October 10: E's mother Irene dies in Cricklewood
* Oct/Nov: (B @120 Palace Rd.Tulse Hill)
* Oct/Nov: (B @120 Palace Rd.Tulse Hill)
*: James starts at Southern Water
*: James starts at Southern Water
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| 1976 ||
| 1976 ||
* July 17: Leslie DuCane marries Alison Carus at Harborne nr Birmingham
* July 17: Leslie DuCane marries Alison Carus at Harborne nr Birmingham
* August 9: D&E move to Spitalfields
* August 9: D&E move to Spitalfields
* Sept 10: Eric Rayner dies (London); D.writes in her diary - brief & to-the-point as usual: “SAT 18 left 7.30am for E Boldre, scattered the ashes on moor opposite Ivyroost. Back by 6”
* Sept 10: Eric Rayner dies (London); D.writes in her diary - brief & to-the-point as usual: "SAT 18 left 7.30am for E Boldre, scattered the ashes on moor opposite Ivyroost. Back by 6"
* October 18: Daphne moves to Ramsgate (50 Addington St)
* October 18: Daphne moves to Ramsgate (50 Addington St)
*: B&K divorce
*: B&K divorce
*: Kate,C&C to Hastings  
*: Kate,C&C to Hastings  
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| 1977 || B.to Glenton Rd.
| 1977 || B.to Glenton Rd.
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| 1978 ||
| 1978 ||
* E&P move to ‘Cedar View’ Reigate
* E&P move to "Cedar View" Reigate
* R,V&R move to Addington St Ramsgate
* R,V&R move to Addington St Ramsgate
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| 1979 || James starts at Honeywell Hemel Hempstead and moves to Caddington nr Luton<br>Rosalind & Chris divorce
| 1979 || James starts at Honeywell Hemel Hempstead and moves to Caddington nr Luton<br>Rosalind & Chris divorce
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| 1980 July || B starts “Dance Craze”
| 1980 July || B starts "Dance Craze"
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| 1981 Feb? || B.back to BFCS
| 1981 Feb? || B.back to BFCS
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| 1982 May 1 || Louise DuCane marries Glen Sutcliffe at Boldre
| 1982 May 1 || Louise DuCane marries Glen Sutcliffe at Boldre
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| 1983 || Annabel marries Daniel Swain @ Limehouse
| 1983 || Annabel marries Daniel Swain @ Limehouse
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| 1984 || Ben to Deptford  (and “Blue Pearl” bought)
| 1984 || Ben to Deptford  (and "Blue Pearl" bought)
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| 1985 ||
| 1985 ||
* June 25: Daisy born
* June 25: Daisy born
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| 1987 July || B.leaves BFCS
| 1987 July || B.leaves BFCS
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| 1988 ||
| 1988 ||
* Jan 20: Daphne dies at Margate
* Jan 20: Daphne dies at Margate
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| 1991  Nov 7 || Jane DuCane marries Terence Michael Ryan at Boldre
| 1991  Nov 7 || Jane DuCane marries Terence Michael Ryan at Boldre
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| 1995 Jan || B.lvs.Lex.Post and moves(partly)to The Gambia
| 1995 Jan || B.lvs.Lex.Post and moves(partly)to The Gambia
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| 1997 Jan || Rosalind moves to Albert Rd Ramsgate  
| 1997 Jan || Rosalind moves to Albert Rd Ramsgate  
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|- bgcolor=#eeeeee
| 1998 Oct. || B.returns to UK
| 1998 Oct. || B.returns to UK
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| 1999 June 8 || Esther dies
| 1999 June 8 || Esther dies
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|- bgcolor=#eeeeee
| 2000 August 8 || Phyllis dies  
| 2000 August 8 || Phyllis dies  
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Revision as of 01:30, 6 July 2010

Preface

I'm not sure where this came from; presumably JERS sent it to me. The file is dated 2004-03-19. --Woozle 16:25, 15 May 2008 (UTC)

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1861 Montague Stephens born
1871 Edith Bailey born
1892 MS @Jersey&Gorey
1894/5 MS @Rio/Montevideo/Belem
1896 Montague Stephens marries Edith in Falkland Is.
1896-99 M&E@Canobie Canada
Maurice born
1899 Feb 2 Biddie born in Esquimault BC
1902 Sept 30 Eric Rayner born Thaton Burma
Clive born (?)
1903 Oct 27 Phyllis born at Saltash Cornwall
1905 Stephens'@Bermuda
1909 July 23 Daphne born Whitchurch Tavistock Devon
1918 October E.'s father dies (Stella Lodge 49th.St.Rangoon)

"When I saw him I had a shock. I hadn't seen him since the previous Christmas holidays when I had made a bullock-cart trip with him to Shwegyin, to which he had just been posted - our last cart-trip together...now he was gaunt with a wasted smile and a weak voice.."

"He was buried the next morning...in the Cantonment Cemetary. I carried one corner of the coffin. I remember that the sun shone and that I thought how odd it was that I should be helping to bury my father, to whom only the day before I had been reading the war news out of the morning paper. He was thirty-nine at the time of his death." [quotes from E's "Journal" written between 1939 and 1942]

1921 Jan E.starts teaching at Church School in Mandalay then to family in Rangoon
1922 July 1 Biddie marries Maxwell Staniforth at Hayling Is
1923 Edith & Monty seperate
1925 April E.to Calcutta to join "The Statesman"
1928 April 4 Rosamund Staniforth born
1929 October E.marries Elma Glassup (Bonnie) in Calcutta
1933
  • May : E.to England(with Bonnie)
  • July 28: Phyllis marries E.P.Appleby in Trincomali
  • Sept.16:
    • D. to Colombo(with Elizabeth Kenning to visit her mother)
    • E. to Calcutta - both on board B&I Domala: "The people on board were the usual crowd on any India-bound ship - sahibs and memsahibs, with a sprinkling of sahibs and memsahibs to-be, people going out for the first time, to jobs or to be married. It was deadening, till I met Daphne. We usesd to sit near each other on the deck, without speaking...then one day when we were in the Red Sea I spoke to her and after that we were always together...we knew each other for ten days on that ship and at the end of that time we had decided that we had to make a new life together."

"She came to me as an equal. I was 31 unsatisfactorily married with a consciousness of intellectual gifts that were wasting in a society I hated and despised...I sneered..inevitably.. I posed. But Daphne cut through all these barbed-wire entanglements that surrounded me..[we] wanted to be with each other always."

"The obstacles seemed so great and we were seperated, that was the worst to bear, the seperation."

"We had made a decision, she and I, and it was a decision that had to be carried out in the face of all obstacles...It never occured to either of us to think of wavering."

"When I think of that time now[Sept 17th.'39]my feelings are a mixture of wonder and fear and gladness..."

[D in a letter to Marjorie]

Commisioner's House Trincomali Oct 1933

On the top verandah..it is fairly cool & undisturbed, though the people going by along the road are rather distracting. I can see the sea, a placid whitish blue & a hot strip of sand. The house is hemmed in by trees & mother has a regular jungle of shrubs in pots. I have had a bathe this morning before breakfast & Elizabeth has been sketching. She is very brave: the other day we went to the market with Augustine the cook & she started sketching. The whole market rose as one man & clustered round at her elbow! Augustine came along & let out a few oaths & the crowd thinned a bit.......We dined on board the Colombo their last night. Elizabeth & I feel like film stars trailing up & down companion-ways & in & out of launches with masses of handsome(?) white clad officers saluting all over the place!

1934
  • Jan.: D.returns UK [March 6 Craven Hill Gdns?]
  • July 22: E.returns UK on the Comorin from Bombay arr.Portsmouth via Marseilles (in his journal he recalls: July 22. Then "The Orchard" Hotel nr. Marble Arch for 6 days, "How wonderful London was that July!" Then at the end of the month to D's cottage at Vron).
  • April: Edith&Solomon take house in Bromley
  • May 26: Claire Appleby born
  • June 25: Applebys to Woodcote Close Epsom
  • Sept 28: D&E retn London Sydney St?
1935
  • Easter-June: D&E @ "Cornerways" Thorns Beach (Easter Ros&Bids visit)
  • by August: D&E @ "Ivyroost" East Boldre
  • Sept: Bids&Max&Ros at "Foundry Cottage" Haslemere
  • December 4: Benedick born in East Boldre
1936
  • Aug 19: Daphne & Eric Rayner married @Wandsworth Registery office "But the day we took as our wedding day is the 22 July 1934 when our new life began.."
  • August 29: James Appleby born
  • [Oct Dulcee&Irene Rayner arr.UK from Rangoon]
  • Oct: D&E&B @ KingswoodRuffs,Greyshot nr.Hindhead
1937
  • [Jan 1 D&I take Lavender Cottage]
  • Sept 25: D&E&B @ 20 Greville Place
1938 B&M&Ros @ The Potteries Graffham nr.Petworth
  • Sept 23: Phyl,Ambrose&James to Colombo
  • Oct 9: Clare Appleby dies
1939 D&E&B @ Upper Park Rd
  • March 2: Applebys retn UK
  • Sept 1: Ben evacuated to Timsbury nr.Bath
  • Sept 3: WW2 declared

"I had visualised swarms of bombers, showering death and destruction on London and thought gladly of Benedick safe in SDomerset. We had waited in the hall downstairs, the apprehension in our hearts. A lorry driver had stopped his lorry in the street outside and came in to shelter in the hall. He had said, "I didn't think Hitler would start as soon as this". Later we had walked across Hampstead Heath to Jack Straw's Castle to catch the bus, feeling very self-conscious with our new gas-masks in their cardboard boxes slung across our shoulders. Hampstead Heath had looked much as it had always looked on a Sunday. The anti-aircraft guns, the allotments, the rubble of London's bombed buildings filling the sandpits by the Spaniard's Road were yet to come."

  • November: Ben back to London then to December - Aspley Guise
1940
  • June: D&E&B @Liverpool,Croxteth Grove,Sefton Park. then D&B @Vron

"that was a wonderful summer, it was difficult to imagine the horror of the war. But the army had taken over part of the New Brighton beach, there were hundreds of French sailors in Liverpool's streets looking a bit forlorn; there were tank barriers and barbed wire on the roads to Chester and into Wales and later in the streets of Liverpool itself, round the docks and the Mersey Tunnel entrance. We went to a fire station to hear a short lecture on fire bombs and to learn how to use a stirrup pump. (Benedick liked working the hose!) One night the sirens went and we sat in the cellar of the house - Benedick enjoyed that too! - feeling a little tense and helpless and not knowing quite what to expect. A plane droned somewhere and we waited...and then the sirens sounded the all-clear and we went to bed. Yes, the sun shone that summer on the yet unmarked face of England. The force that had smashed the face of Europe was gathering for the crowning blow.. but we did not know... the vicious strength of that blow nor the inadequacy of our own strength. How could we? The sun had shone on England so long and we were warm with it, drugged. Our awakening was to come." (April 25 1942)

  • August: D&E&B @Canfield Gardens, Finchley Road
  • Sept 6th.: move to 15 Cannon Place, Hampstead.

"The next day the Germans flew up the Thames and set the London docks ablaze...There were sometimes vapour trails patterning the London sky, and once or twice we stood in the streets and watched British fighters flying regimented and purposeful in the autumn sunlight."

Staniforths @Bognor Regis

1942
  • Oct 22: Annabel Rayner born, Staniforths @Flimwell
  • November: Rayners move to Well Walk Hampstead
1943
  • Maurice "Molly" Stephens dies
  • James to Cleeve Crt prep-school Malvern Wells
1945 Rosamund @Well Walk
  • Sept: Ben to PR at Gorehambury St Albans
1946 Sept 22 Rosalind Rayner born; Staniforths @Bexhill
1947 Feb10 Applebys move to "Windyridge" Reigate
1948 Feb 28 Linda Appleby born
1949 Sept Ben to Bryanston; James to Eastbourne College
1950
  • Dec 10: Edith Grundy dies at Redhill
  • Dec 19: Montague Stephens dies at Bexhill
1951 Staniforths @Sixpenny Handley
  • July 28: Rosamund marries Tony Du Cane
1954
  • March 12: Leslie DuCane born at Forest Cottage Pilley Bailey
  • May 6: Ben starts National Service
1955
  • May: E to BBC
  • June: B to BAOR
  • Sept 29: James starts NS (RASC)
1956
  • May: Ben de-mobbed
  • Aug 7: Jane DuCane born at Pilley Bailey
1957
  • Sept: James de-mobbed
  • Oct: Ben to Technicolor
    Rosalind to Sth.Hampstead High School
1958 May 29
  • Daphne to Italy with Elizabeth Kenning
  • B. to Worldwide(Clapham)
1959 & Summer of the 17th.Doll
1960 James to Philippines
  • March 26 Louise DuCane born at Pilley Bailey
1961
  • [Jan 14: Carol Corbett to Well Walk]
  • Aug 26: James Appleby & Esther married in Manila
    Linda Appleby dies
1962 June 29 E&P move to "West Point" Reigate Hill
1963 July B to Lonsdale Sq. Islington
1964
  • Sept.21: Ben Rayner marries Kate Leahy at St.Mary's, Lewisham
  • Feb: Aaron born to AR
1965 April 30 Emma born to RR
1966 Sept 3
  • Rosalind marries Christopher McClure at Christ Church, Hampstead
  • Rosalind & Chris to Compagne Gdns
  • James&Esther rtn UK - Horley Surrey
1967 D&E move to Maze Hill Greenwich
1968 B&K "on location" in Paris; R&C to Knockholt
1969
  • June 29: Vanessa McCure born
  • August: B&K to Rippingale
    James starts at British Olivetti
1970
  • Jan: R,C&V move to Plumstead
  • March 25: Biddie dies at "Greenacre" Pilley Bailey
  • May 8: D&E to Corby Glen
1971
  • Feb 17: Rachel McClure born
  • May 26: Cassius Rayner born
  • August: B&K&C to 4 Kingswood Rd Shortlands
  • Dec ?: Bel to Spitalfields
1972 Jan 6 Vanessa Appleby born
1973 B&K&C to South Street Greenwich
1974 J,E & V move to Pound Hill Crawley
1975
  • June 16: Charlotte Rayner born
  • October 10: E's mother Irene dies in Cricklewood
  • Oct/Nov: (B @120 Palace Rd.Tulse Hill)
    James starts at Southern Water
1976
  • July 17: Leslie DuCane marries Alison Carus at Harborne nr Birmingham
  • August 9: D&E move to Spitalfields
  • Sept 10: Eric Rayner dies (London); D.writes in her diary - brief & to-the-point as usual: "SAT 18 left 7.30am for E Boldre, scattered the ashes on moor opposite Ivyroost. Back by 6"
  • October 18: Daphne moves to Ramsgate (50 Addington St)
    B&K divorce
    Kate,C&C to Hastings
1977 B.to Glenton Rd.
1978
  • E&P move to "Cedar View" Reigate
  • R,V&R move to Addington St Ramsgate
1979 James starts at Honeywell Hemel Hempstead and moves to Caddington nr Luton
Rosalind & Chris divorce
1980 July B starts "Dance Craze"
1981 Feb? B.back to BFCS
1982 May 1 Louise DuCane marries Glen Sutcliffe at Boldre
1983 Annabel marries Daniel Swain @ Limehouse
1984 Ben to Deptford (and "Blue Pearl" bought)
1985
  • June 25: Daisy born
  • Dec 26: Max Staniforth dies at Hawkhurst, cremated at Tunbridge Wells and buried alongside Biddie at Boldre
    R,V&R move to Bradley Rd Ramsgate
1987 July B.leaves BFCS
1988
  • Jan 20: Daphne dies at Margate
  • Oct 8: Ambrose Appleby dies
  • Dec 5: B.starts @Lexington Post
1991 Nov 7 Jane DuCane marries Terence Michael Ryan at Boldre
1995 Jan B.lvs.Lex.Post and moves(partly)to The Gambia
1997 Jan Rosalind moves to Albert Rd Ramsgate
1998 Oct. B.returns to UK
1999 June 8 Esther dies
2000 August 8 Phyllis dies
wiki file: https://hypertwins.org/mw/index.php?title=Rayner_family_timeline&oldid=13799