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=Why We Refuse to Get Married= | =Why We Refuse to Get Married= | ||
<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div> | <div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div> | ||
* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where: | * Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where: | ||
** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves) | ** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves) | ||
** the applicable rules change from state to state | ** the applicable rules change from state to state | ||
** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent'' | ** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent'' | ||
* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]]. | |||
* It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily|the kind of family we ultimately want to build]]. | |||
* Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, Woozle [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on. | |||
There are a couple of other reasons which might be considered [[TMI]] by more socially-conservative folk; they are [[/TMI|here]]. | |||
We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]]. | We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]]. | ||
Revision as of 02:34, 21 January 2011
or,
Why We Refuse to Get Married
by Woozle
- Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
- we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
- the applicable rules change from state to state
- the applicable rules can be changed over time, without our consent
- Until marriage is available to everyone, it discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model.
- It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for the kind of family we ultimately want to build.
- Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, Woozle once), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
There are a couple of other reasons which might be considered TMI by more socially-conservative folk; they are here.
We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see issuepedia:marriage boycott.