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About

Phone phobia is a psychological condition in which one experiences extreme fear or avoidance of using the telephone. The fear may be more intense with regard to either making or receiving phone calls; in the latter case, it can intensify to the point where the phone-phobic is afraid even to listen to voice-mail (answering machine) messages.

Aliases: phonephobia, phone-phobia, telephobia

Discussion / Forums

Forums:
- Hypertwins Phone Phobia Forum (read-only for now).
- ~~Ning telephobia network~~ (created 2008-03-09 by Woozle; decommissioned 2013)
phone phobia at HTYP (wiki)

The discussion here (HypertWiki) started with Harena & Woozle's posts in 2005.

Causes

Based on the anecdotes collected here, the causes of phone-phobia appear to vary somewhat although there do seem to be some recurring patterns, including:

fear of confrontation (why are you calling me?)
fear of ridicule (why do I want to talk to you?)
fear of miscommunication:
- fear of being misunderstood
- fear of misunderstanding
- fear of forgetting what you wanted to convey
- fear of forgetting what you were told while on the phone
fear of irreversibly prejudging someone based on their voice alone:
- fear of hearing the voice of someone you have not yet met but plan to meet in the future for fear of disliking the quality of their voice and inappropriately prejudging the person out of context
- is this kind of like where you have that pre-judged opinion stuck in your head and can't get rid of it even after you meet the person? Please feel free to describe in more detail on the discussion page. -W.
(cell phones only) fear of cell phones causing cancer. Although scientific studies have not shown a correlation, there are reasons not to trust these results completely; also, fear also does not necessarily operate on a rational basis, even if the connection were completely disproven by trusted parties.
(anonymous user 58.168.243.72 said:) fear of someone hearing your voice on the other line or hearing your own voice. Can make you uncomfortable. (Woozle adds: can you describe this in more detail? Is it only on the phone?)
(anonymous user 172.203.105.119 said:) It Can Also Be Scary Talking To Someone That You Can't See
anonymous user 65.199.97.126 suggested that one of the causes of phone-phobia might be "becoming a first year financial advisor". I'm not sure what is meant by this, so if the poster would be so good as to explain further... is a first year financial advisor subject to a lot of really unpleasant phone calls?
(anonymous user 72.73.109.138 said:) Fear of calling and reaching the wrong person, fear of calling said person at an inconvenient time and being a bother or making the recipient mad at you.
(anonymous user 122.106.57.24 said:) Fear of lull in conversation and not being present to make a distraction.
Fear of running out of things to say, or not knowing what to say.
Fear of stuttering.
Fear of appearing boring. On the internet, you can take your time to respond in a creative way. On the phone, no time to think and sometimes you run out of things to say at all, and the silence is terrifying.

Obstacles

Practical obstacles which can contribute to avoidance of making calls:

You can't do part of a phone call now and then finish it later. (Interruptions sometimes make it necessary to do things in more than one part. Also, sometimes you get part way into a communication and realize you are lacking key information, or are going about it the wrong way, leading to...)
You can't start a phone call over again if you realize (partway through) that you started out wrong.
A successful phone call requires calling at the same time the other person is available to take the call (unless they have voicemail... but the mental preparation required to have a phone conversation is not the same as the mental preparation required for leaving a message, and there is usually no way to know in advance which it will be).
Phone calls often require talking to several different people first, and waiting on hold, before you get to the person you actually want to speak with. This is annoying and time-consuming.

Links

2018-06-02 Why No One Answers Their Phone Anymore: good riddance
2017-01-04 Why Millennials Don't Like to Make Phone Calls: apparently we have a somewhat millennial approach to tech in general...
2013-08-28 Why are you calling my texting device?
Wikipedia

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-Phone-phobia (sometimes called "telephobia"), is a psychological condition in which an individual experiences extreme fear or avoidance of using the telephone. In some cases, it is mainly experienced with regard to making (as opposed to receiving) phone calls, but it can also be extreme to the point where the phone-phobic is afraid even to listen to voice-mail (answering machine) messages.
+{{sidebar|__TOC__}}
+==About==
+[[File:Telephobia.fullsize.logo-crop.png|100px|left]][[Phone phobia]] is a {{yp|psychological}} condition in which one experiences extreme fear or avoidance of using the telephone. The fear may be more intense with regard to either making or receiving phone calls; in the latter case, it can intensify to the point where the phone-phobic is afraid even to listen to voice-mail (answering machine) messages.
-==Opinions==
+'''Aliases''': [[phonephobia]], [[phone-phobia]], [[telephobia]]
+<br clear=both>
+==Discussion / Forums==
+[[File:Phone phobia denial dude.jpg|right|300px]]
+* '''Forums''':
+** [[Talk:Phone-phobia|Hypertwins Phone Phobia Forum]] (read-only for now).
+** <s>[http://telephobia.ning.com/ Ning telephobia network]</s> (created 2008-03-09 by Woozle; decommissioned 2013)
+* {{yp|phone phobia}} at HTYP (wiki)
-===[[User:Woozle|Woozle]] 15:58, 4 May 2005 (CDT)===
+The discussion here (HypertWiki) started with Harena & Woozle's posts in [[Talk:Phone-phobia/2005|2005]].
+==Causes==
+Based on the anecdotes collected here, the causes of phone-phobia appear to vary somewhat although there do seem to be some '''recurring patterns''', including:
+* fear of confrontation (why are you calling me?)
+* fear of ridicule (why do I want to talk to ''you''?)
+* fear of miscommunication:
+** fear of being misunderstood
+** fear of misunderstanding
+** fear of forgetting what you wanted to convey
+** fear of forgetting what you were told while on the phone
+* fear of irreversibly prejudging someone based on their voice alone:
+** fear of hearing the voice of someone you have not yet met but plan to meet in the future for fear of disliking the quality of their voice and inappropriately prejudging the person out of context
+** ''is this kind of like where you have that pre-judged opinion stuck in your head and can't get rid of it even after you meet the person? Please feel free to describe in more detail on the {{talkpage}}. -[[User:Woozle|W]].''
+* (cell phones only) fear of cell phones causing cancer. Although scientific studies have not shown a correlation, there are reasons not to trust these results completely; also, fear also does not necessarily operate on a rational basis, even if the connection were completely disproven by trusted parties.
+* ({{anonuser|58.168.243.72}} said:) fear of someone hearing your voice on the other line or hearing your own voice. Can make you uncomfortable. ''(Woozle adds: can you describe this in more detail? Is it only on the phone?)''
+* ({{anonuser|172.203.105.119}} said:) It Can Also Be Scary Talking To Someone That You Can't See
+* {{anonuser|65.199.97.126}} suggested that one of the causes of phone-phobia might be "becoming a first year financial advisor". I'm not sure what is meant by this, so if the poster would be so good as to explain further... is a first year financial advisor subject to a lot of really unpleasant phone calls?
+* ({{anonuser|72.73.109.138}} said:) Fear of calling and reaching the wrong person, fear of calling said person at an inconvenient time and being a bother or making the recipient mad at you.
+* ({{anonuser|122.106.57.24}} said:) Fear of lull in conversation and not being present to make a distraction.
+* Fear of running out of things to say, or not knowing what to say.
+* Fear of stuttering.
+* Fear of appearing boring. On the internet, you can take your time to respond in a creative way. On the phone, no time to think and sometimes you run out of things to say at all, and the silence is terrifying.
+==Obstacles==
+'''Practical obstacles''' which can contribute to avoidance of making calls:
+* You can't do part of a phone call now and then finish it later. (Interruptions sometimes make it necessary to do things in more than one part. Also, sometimes you get part way into a communication and realize you are lacking key information, or are going about it the wrong way, leading to...)
+* You can't start a phone call over again if you realize (partway through) that you started out wrong.
+* A successful phone call requires calling at the same time the other person is available to take the call (unless they have voicemail... but the mental preparation required to have a phone conversation is not the same as the mental preparation required for leaving a message, and there is usually no way to know in advance which it will be).
+* Phone calls often require talking to several different people first, and waiting on hold, before you get to the person you actually want to speak with. This is annoying and time-consuming.
+==Links==
+* '''2018-06-02''' [https://mobile.slashdot.org/story/18/06/02/0645252/why-no-one-answers-their-phone-anymore Why No One Answers Their Phone Anymore]: good riddance
+* '''2017-01-04''' [https://www.inc.com/john-brandon/why-millennials-dont-like-to-make-phone-calls.html Why Millennials Don't Like to Make Phone Calls]: apparently we have a somewhat millennial approach to tech in general...
+* '''2013-08-28''' [http://freethoughtblogs.com/blaghag/2013/08/why-are-you-calling-my-texting-device/ Why are you calling my texting device?]
+* {{wikipedia|Telephone phobia}}
-My own experience has varied between these extremes; sometimes I can listen to messages, but it gets harder if I know I am behind on my work because I am afraid that the message will be reminding me of something I haven't done.
+[[Category:Boxes|Sidebar]]
+[[Category:Issues|Phone phobia]]
-It is a problem which I have had almost as long as I can remember. I believe it is largely rooted in having a very poor short-term memory, which means that I easily forget things I am told verbally -- to the point where I will find myself completely at a loss as to what to say next in a conversation, or even whether it is my turn, or if the conversation is now over or not. In face-to-face conversations, I can often read nonverbal cues to help guide me, but these cues are almost entirely lacking in phone conversations. If the conversation were taking place in print (e.g. email or instant messaging), I could re-read what had taken place so far until it sank in, and then work out what to do; with the phone, there is no instant replay, and there is an expectation that you need to respond within a small time-window.
-This problem has also been very costly to me -- not just because of missed opportunities because I couldn't make a phone call, but also because of problems dealing with people who agreed to handle phone calls for me.
-Although this problem is not, as far as I know, recognized by any official psychological association, I have lost count of the number of people I have spoken with who have more or less the same problem. Some others have said that they have experienced this problem but "got over it"; after 35 years of trying to "get over it", by various means, I do not think the forceful approach works very well. (I have more to write about this, but will have to come back to it later.)
-(added 18:48, 22 May 2005 (CDT)) I've been trying to think of possible sources for the aversion. Here's what I've come up with:
-*I ask a question. The person on the other end says something, but it doesn't soak in -- I don't hear it, to oversimplify a bit. It can actually be ''physically painful'' (leading to intense migraine headaches) to make myself replay the sounds in my head and listen to them more carefully, or else to ask the person to repeat what they said and force my head into a mode where I can take in the information at the speed at which it is given.
-===[[User:Harena|Harena]] 16:11, 4 May 2005 (CDT)===
-I have had great difficulty pinning down just what it is that makes it so hard to make phone calls. "Fear" is what comes to mind at first. But Fear of What? Well, there's the whole, "What if the person who I'm calling has no clue who this is that is calling?" and then I have to go into lengthy explanations that make me sound idiotic. Or something. And then there is this trapped feeling. When on the phone, I can't escape. Also I can't see what the person on the other line is doing; how they are reacting to what I say. Little cues like that make me feel detached & awkward.
-And maybe it's just All of the Above.
-Just my humble 2 cents worth.
-(there's more in there *taps on forehead* but that's all that came out at this time)
-===[[User:Mechamancer|Mechamancer]] 15:23, 24 May 2005 (CDT)===
-I also have this fear.  I keep having to ask people to repeat things because of the bad reception.  And as said before the lack of visual clues is disturbing.  I also hate the awkward silances that you get.  And I always have problems starting and ending conversations.  I like to pick up a thread of a conversation not start one.  Plus you never know who you will talk to when you call someone.  I can never rcognise peoples voices.