Woozle/pronoun

I have no firm pronoun preference.

Or maybe I should say I have a slight preference for female pronouns, but I haven't decided yet if I'm allowed to have that preference. I don't want anyone to feel deceived.

I'm male-bodied with gender dysphoria. A slight majority of my friends tend to use female pronouns to refer to me, while my family uses male pronouns exclusively. I tend to feel complemented when people online assume I am female, but I don't feel that I can expect people to feel comfortable addressing me as female when I don't look female. (This probably dates me somewhat... I don't have a problem with other TG people doing this for themselves, but it doesn't feel quite right for me to do it, under the current circumstances.)

It's not a secret, but I've downplayed it because of how my family reacted. I don't currently have the resources to take corrective action as far as my appearance, so I don't really feel that I can force the issue... but that's a much longer discussion.

Harena often uses female pronouns to refer to me, but around some people defaults to male. This makes intuitive sense to me: although it's not a secret, not everyone I know (online or off) is aware of it, and I haven't made a point of making sure everyone knows. Using female pronouns for me around these people would therefore cause head-scratching at a minimum, and would probably necessitate a conversation I might not be ready to have at any given moment.

Complications

I'm in a particularly odd position because most MtFs seem to be drawn to the hyperfeminine, while I'm drawn to tomboys and to the image of myself as one of them -- which is pretty much impossible to convey through clothing or any other self-adornment, because a major characteristic of tomboyism is (of course) wearing masculine clothing and not wearing makeup.

...which is a rather large part of why it took me so long to figure out what was going on.