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<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>
<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>
* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
** I'm [[gender dysphoria|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway.
** I'm [[gender dysphoria|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway (at least, not to marry anyone I might conceivably actually want to marry, assuming I wanted to marry in the first place).
** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily|the kind of family I would want to build]].
** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily|the kind of family I would want to build]].
* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning for any more [[offspring]], which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses &ndash; and our lives &ndash; in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses &ndash; and our lives &ndash; in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
** those rules change from state to state
** the applicable rules change from state to state
** the rules can be changed over time, without our consent
** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent''


We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].
We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].

Revision as of 01:12, 11 April 2008

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Why We Refuse to Get Married

by Woozle
  • Until marriage is available to everyone, it discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model.
    • I'm gender dysphoric, so if all were right with my little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway (at least, not to marry anyone I might conceivably actually want to marry, assuming I wanted to marry in the first place).
    • It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for the kind of family I would want to build.
  • The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning for any more offspring, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
    • Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me once), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
  • Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
    • we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
    • the applicable rules change from state to state
    • the applicable rules can be changed over time, without our consent

We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see issuepedia:marriage boycott.