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=Why We Refuse to Get Married=
=Why We Refuse to Get Married=
<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>
* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
** I'm [[gender dysphoria|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway (at least, not to marry anyone I might conceivably actually want to marry, assuming I wanted to marry in the first place).
** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily|the kind of family I would want to build]].
* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning for any more [[offspring]], which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses &ndash; and our lives &ndash; in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
** the applicable rules change from state to state
** the applicable rules change from state to state
** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent''
** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent''
* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
* It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily|the kind of family we ultimately want to build]].
* Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, Woozle [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses &ndash; and our lives &ndash; in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
There are a couple of other reasons which might be considered [[TMI]] by more socially-conservative folk; they are [[/TMI|here]].


We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].
We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].
==Links==
* '''2015-11-18''' [http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/what-if-i-never-get-married-you-asked-google-heres-answer What If I Never Get Married? You Asked Google &ndash; Heres the Answer]
* '''2012-06-25''' [https://plus.google.com/116987987149730551614/posts/Kz39hUYMMkN Cindy Brown] makes some similar and related points

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