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* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]]. | * Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]]. | ||
** I'm [[gender dysphoria|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway. | ** I'm [[gender dysphoria|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway. | ||
** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily|the kind of family I would want to build]]. | |||
* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage. | * The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage. | ||
* Entering into marriage would mean signing a contract where: | ** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on. | ||
* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where: | |||
** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves) | ** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves) | ||
** | ** those rules change from state to state | ||
** the rules can be changed over time, without our consent | ** the rules can be changed over time, without our consent | ||
We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]]. | We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]]. | ||
Revision as of 23:55, 10 April 2008
or,
Why We Refuse to Get Married
by Woozle
- Until marriage is available to everyone, it discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model.
- I'm gender dysphoric, so if all were right with my little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway.
- It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for the kind of family I would want to build.
- The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
- Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me once), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
- Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
- we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
- those rules change from state to state
- the rules can be changed over time, without our consent
We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see issuepedia:marriage boycott.