Marriage boycott - Revision history

Woozle: linkdrop

2015-12-19T23:12:06Z

linkdrop

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	We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].		We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].
	==Links==		==Links==

	* '''2012-06-25''' [https://plus.google.com/116987987149730551614/posts/Kz39hUYMMkN Cindy Brown] makes some similar and related points		* '''2012-06-25''' [https://plus.google.com/116987987149730551614/posts/Kz39hUYMMkN Cindy Brown] makes some similar and related points

Woozle: link to Cindy Brown's G+ post

2012-06-25T12:37:13Z

link to Cindy Brown's G+ post

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	We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].		We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].
			==Links==
			* '''2012-06-25''' [https://plus.google.com/116987987149730551614/posts/Kz39hUYMMkN Cindy Brown] makes some similar and related points

Woozle: author attribution no longer needed

2011-01-21T02:36:41Z

author attribution no longer needed

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	''or,''		''or,''
	=Why We Refuse to Get Married=		=Why We Refuse to Get Married=
	~~<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>~~
	* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:		* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
	** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)		** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)

Woozle: put TMI stuff "behind a cut", so to speak

2011-01-21T02:34:59Z

put TMI stuff "behind a cut", so to speak

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	=Why We Refuse to Get Married=		=Why We Refuse to Get Married=
	<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>		<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>
	* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family\|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
	** I'm [[gender dysphoria\|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway (at least, not to marry anyone I might conceivably actually want to marry, assuming I wanted to marry in the first place).
	** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily\|the kind of family I would want to build]].
	* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning for any more [[offspring]], which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
	** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement\|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
	* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:		* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
	** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)		** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
	** the applicable rules change from state to state		** the applicable rules change from state to state
	** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent''		** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent''
			* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family\|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
			* It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily\|the kind of family we ultimately want to build]].
			* Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, Woozle [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement\|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.

			There are a couple of other reasons which might be considered [[TMI]] by more socially-conservative folk; they are [[/TMI\|here]].

	We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].		We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].

Woozle: /* Why We Refuse to Get Married */ clarification; link to new "offspring" page

2008-04-11T01:12:28Z

Why We Refuse to Get Married: clarification; link to new "offspring" page

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	<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>		<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>
	* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family\|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].		* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family\|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
	** I'm [[gender dysphoria\|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway.		** I'm [[gender dysphoria\|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway (at least, not to marry anyone I might conceivably actually want to marry, assuming I wanted to marry in the first place).
	** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily\|the kind of family I would want to build]].		** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily\|the kind of family I would want to build]].
	* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning ~~children~~, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.		* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning for any more [[offspring]], which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
	** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement\|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.		** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement\|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
	* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:		* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
	** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)		** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
	** ~~those~~ rules change from state to state		** the applicable rules change from state to state
	** the rules can be changed over time, without our consent		** the applicable rules can be changed over time, ''without our consent''

	We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].		We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].

Woozle: more elaboration and links

2008-04-10T23:55:34Z

Woozle: New page: ''or,'' =Why We Refuse to Get Married=
''by Woozle''
* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against ...

2008-04-10T23:40:07Z

New page: ''or,'' =Why We Refuse to Get Married= <div align=right>''by Woozle''</div> * Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against ...

New page

''or,''
=Why We Refuse to Get Married=
<div align=right>''by [[Woozle]]''</div>
* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
** I'm [[gender dysphoria|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway.
* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
* Entering into marriage would mean signing a contract where:
** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
** the terms change from state to state
** the rules can be changed over time, without our consent

We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].

← Older revision		Revision as of 23:55, 10 April 2008
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	* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family\|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].		* Until marriage is available to everyone, it [[issuepedia:war on the family\|discriminates unfairly against anyone who doesn't fit the standard model]].
	** I'm [[gender dysphoria\|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway.		** I'm [[gender dysphoria\|gender dysphoric]], so if all were right with ''my'' little world I wouldn't be allowed to marry under current laws anyway.
			** It is too restrictive and doesn't allow for [[hyperfamily\|the kind of family I would want to build]].
	* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.		* The laws surrounding marriage aren't designed for our relationship; we don't have sex and aren't planning children, which are two of the main assumptions that go into marriage.
	* Entering into marriage would mean signing a contract where:		** Both of us have tried marriage (Harena twice, me [[2002-03-14 divorce agreement\|once]]), and found it an entirely unsatisfactory tool for strengthening a relationship. It tended to push our relationships with our spouses – and our lives – in directions in which we did not want to go, weakening desirable elements of the relationship and initially hiding flaws which only became apparent later on.
			* Entering into marriage would mean effectively signing a contract where:
	** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)		** we don't get to read all the applicable rules before signing (much less set them ourselves)
	** ~~the terms~~ change from state to state		** those rules change from state to state
	** the rules can be changed over time, without our consent		** the rules can be changed over time, without our consent

	We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].		We are not the only "couple" boycotting marriage; see [[issuepedia:marriage boycott]].